Advice Of The Week

Good Day Meanies,

Surround yourself with people who will support your dating aims. Don’t sabotage this by sitting around with friends who are negative about love and relationships (often the married ones). Start attending social functions frequented by singles. Sitting alongside couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.

Sexual Position Of The Week

Hey Meanies,

This is the "Randy Raft". If you like to bone in the pool, river , lake etc give this a try. My only question is why the name RANDY had to be used...lol :-)

Crazy Night With A Lil Bit Of A Good Deed

Hola Meanies,

This week I have been very busy traveling from CT to NYC for events 3 days in a
row. I am tiredddd !!!!!! :-) Don't get me wrong I love NYC but I need a break.

Any who let's get down to the business. Last night bestsie & I went to Subterraneo, an underground Dia de los Muertos-themed affair celebrating both the life eternal and the birth of Jose Cuervo Tradicional. It was cool and interesting. I was very grateful for not being suffocated. We left around 12:45am so we can catch the last train to CT the 1:49am. First off there was some heavy ass traffic down 42nd street, at one point we didn't know if we were going to make it.

As usual the late night/early morning trains 12am-2am contains mostly drunkpassengers. Before getting on the train 3 guys were already going at it. Well because we are so special those 3 guys decided to sit in the same train cart as us. Just shy of 3 stops before our stop Bridgeport, a fight breaks out on the train between those 3 guys. 2 friends against one guy.

Don't get me wrong, the single guy was running his mouth but he walked away. The 2 friends decided that they wanted to fight. Well guys there was no one on one, apparently that still doesn't exist. The 2 friends jumped the one guy in the vestibule.

I was not expecting them to physically fight. I saw the fight and immediately went to get the conductor at the back of the train in the next train cart. The train was stopped immediately. By the time I got back to my cart the fight stopped. But when I saw the single guy, my heart was beating really fast. His face was bloody beyond belief. All I saw was rage in his eyes. Who wouldn't feel that way knowing you got jumped and your girlfriend got hurt in the process.

We were suppose to reach Bridgeport at 3:15am, didn't arrive until 3:45. I'm sure you're saying "I'm sure they are glad to get off that train", of course !!! But guess what ? Shit was just getting started. We got off the train and couldn't leave the train station/platform because it's closed. If you guys don't know my bestsie is in a wheel chair. So I'm saying to myself I can't carry that 600lbs chair down the stairs.

Now we have taken the 1:49am from Grand Central a gazillion times & the doors to leave the station are open. Last night was the first time EVER that I called 911 because bestsie said so. I was on hold for about 10 mins thank god we weren't actually hurt. Low & behold there are security guards in the train station 24/7. WTH !!!

I wish we would of known this because I would've definitely been banging down the door. Now we know if this scenario was ever to happen again don't call 911 bang on the security door.

This is usually what our life consists of, weird/sad/crazy situations. My bestsie says God was testing us, could it be ? I don't know but I feel extremely bad for the guy that got jumped. Seeing someone get hurt like that in front of your eyes is not a good feeling.

I was telling myself that if I didn't go get the conductor they would of fought and we would be home and not calling 911 to let us out of the station. I was told you did a good deed, you saved a innocent persons life tonight. Some ppl wouldn't do what you did. I'm all messed up :-( Sometimes you have that feeling I did a good deed, why do I feel so bad ?

Only in NEW YORK !!!!!!

Hey Meanies,

I'm tired of seeing African Americans fight over stupid things. I say fight because someone hit you first, not because they didn't move over for you to see down or someone looked at you wrong. You look extremely stupid and uncivilized. I'm sure these people have children as well. What great examples they're setting.

Sexual Position of the Week :-D

Hola Meanies,

This is "Rock His Boat". I must say this looks uncomfortable, but if you want to try go ahead. Maybe the water thrashing under the boat will magnify the intensity. Just guessing lol. Enjoy & WRAP IT UP !!!!!

Advice Of The Week

Good Day Meanies,

Think about what you want to gain from dating and what timeframes you expect. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.

Advice Of The Week

Good Afternoon Meanies,

Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't try to be someone you’re not, but amplify and accentuate your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate that you demonstrated some effort.

Welcome Home !!!!!!!!

Hey Meanies,

Last week Wednesday I bought a new family member that I have been dying to get months ago. He's finally here ! Meet Oggy my first son/betta :-). I love this betta & I only have had him for 5 days. This would be my first time taking care of a fish by myself.

Growing up I had various pets : rabbits, bearded lizard, snake, parakeets, and fish. Yes I have a great love for animals, I probably prefer them over humans...lol. So I think Oggy is spoiled already acting like a prince. I created such a beautiful palace for him & it seems he like his studio apartment (the container he came) a lil bit too much. He has been in this container for 5 days, next week I will be putting him in his tank. Oggy will have a nice & toasty new life. I had to get a tank heater because my house is ummm how can I say this, always a couple degrees colder than outside. If I'm cold he has to be cold as well. I just got him , I'm not trying to kill him. Even though I'm paranoid.

Almost every couple mins , I'm checking on him....lol. I'm excited but also nervous because Oggy is already a picky eater. Bettas can go a whole week without food. But he needs to eat, right ? I just hope he's not stubborn and starves himself to death. Hopefully Oggy can live for at least 3 yrs :-) I'm also thinking if I should give him some friends to play with. Hmmm we'll see if he gets use to his new home first.

Also, Oggy is not too fond of his store bought fish food (flakes or pellets). But he sure would inhale fresh salmon........

Ghetto Fab Wig

Good day Meanies,

Two weeks ago I read an article on CurlyNikki.com about Kohls having a Halloween wig called "Ghetto Fab". I'm sure you have guessed that the natural hair community has been raising hell about it. I'm not super mad but I am concerned about a wig being called "Ghetto Fab" because it's a curly Afro. Why the wig couldn't be named "Curly Afro" why use the word "ghetto". I'm not offended I just wonder why the manufacturers would pick the word "ghetto". I'm sure other ppl are thinking that the company is saying every person with a curly Afro is ghetto. I don't like blowing things out of proportion but I have to wonder about this decision to name the wig "ghetto fab". Also there were so many complaints that the wig is no longer available at kohls.com.

Four Loko On Deck ?

Hola Meanies,

So last night round 10pm I decided to try Four Loco. If you haven't heard of it, I suggest that you should do some research. The first time I heard of it is from
my best friend. I'm not going to lie the stuff I was hearing had me very interested. I did know that it was a malt drink.

My best friend said that a few ppl she know said its "dangerous". I'm thinking damn a malt beverage that can make you act a fool..hmmm. But I also thought damn what kind of shit is this. Like I said I'm interested but I instantly thought I'm sure the liquor store across the street from me probably won't have it.

Today my mom sent me to get her power ball tickets. I thought I want a bottle of Moscato, I haven't drank in my house since forever. While I'm getting my wine, I see a colorful ass can in the refrigerator section wondering what kind of drink is this. I'm not going to lie first glance It look like an energy drink. Then I started to read the can & it's malt liquor/energy drink. There are two different cans but I can't remember what's the name of the malt beverage my bestsie was talking about. I didn't feel
like calling her waking her up out of her sleep to find out what's the name. When I reached back home I told her about the drinks I saw & she told me the name "Four Loko". I could only remember one of the drinks being "Joose or Loose".

So about an hour later I needed to go back outside to Rite Aid. I thought why not go to the liquor store to see if they have it. Low & behold they had "Four Loko". Two
flavors Loko UVA & Blue Raspberry. I bought 3 Blue Raspberry & 1 Loko UVA. I tried it around 10pm, and it taste like beer mixed with liquor. The Four Loko is a 23.5 fl oz with 12.0% alcohol. Now to me, that's an crazy amount of alcohol to be in a malt beverage. My bestsie didn't like it at all. She said it tasted like Robotussin...lol. My Loko UVA was not that bad. But I can say you will be a lil winded in about 15-20 mins depending on your body weight. I wouldn't consider it dangerous unless you are chugging 6 cans straight through with no break. I wouldn't recommend doing that either because it has caffeine, taurine, and guarana with alcohol. Now the first three ingredients actually does not affect me, I have tried energy drinks with all 3 and I feel normal.

We all know some ppl get really wired up of these ingredients. They can get your heart racing & your basically panting to control your breathing. What's the aftermath of drinking Four Loko ? For me I was definitely a lil buzzed, heart rate went up a lil bit and was feeling nauseous until I went to sleep and even when I woke up. I was going to the bathroom all friggin night and I didn't eat properly all day because YES I was still feeling nauseous. My bestise didn't even finish her can because she felt her heart racing a lil bit and she stopped. Would I try it AGAIN ? I don't know the jury is still out on that one. All I have to say is give it a try :-D

I still have 2 cans left :-( lol

2 Month Naturalversary Coming SOON !!!!!!!

Hey Meanies,

Next week October 20,2010 will be 2 months since I've went natural. Check this video out, my second video on Youtube also my first time showing my TWA (Teeny Weeny Afro).

Enjoy !!!!!

Curl Mart Haul

Hey Meanies,

I just purchased a few products from curlmart.com. Check out the video, enjoy !!!!!

Can We Talk: Natural Hair Snobbery

Hey Meanies,

This video is about women with texlaxed or relaxed hair feeling left out of the natural hair community....

Advice of The Week

Hola Meanies,

Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not play a bigger part in your life down the road. The fact is, most people have something interesting to offer. While you may not be out on the dating scene looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.

Inspiration For Life

Hey Meanies,

I wanted to share this song/video for some inspiration. The video is by Anthony David featuring India Aire.

Check out the video below....ENJOY

This Is What I Think.......

Dedicated To All The Naturalistas :-D

Hola Meanies,

Today I saw a video that I can relate to but now that I am natural it means much more. Indie Aire" I Am Not My Hair". A lot of people might say it is very cliche for someone who has just turn natural to feel this way " I am not my hair". Personally when I had my hair relaxed I still had question such as "do folks like me more because my hair is straight?","am I more attractive?" etc. It may be cliche but it's true. Does having straighter hair make me a better person, better friend, better worker, better role model ? Of course it shouldn't be that way but there are people who judge people by their hair. If W folks can wear their natural long silky straight hair, why can't B folks wear their kinks and curls ? I'm just saying....Hair doesn't make the person

Check out the video below

I Want To Go To The SPA !!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey Meanies,

For the whole summer all I can think about is going to the SPA. I have went once with my Mom and it was an experience I will never forget. The environment feels sooooo damn good. You go in and literally forget about what happened yesterday and last week. With that being said, there is a song that I love so much by Goapele "Closer". I heard it yesterday and instantly I zoned out and went somewhere surreal...lol. Great feeling. Some songs just take you to another place. Whenever I get the chance to go back to the SPA, I need to hear that song while getting rubbed down....lmao

Check out the video below... ENJOY !!!!!

Mom Dukes Natural ?

Pic above: Mom Dukes want twists like this with her own hair...$50 hell no !!!! lol

Good Day Meanies,

I spoke to my Mom today and of course she can go on and on and on. Before I completely zoned out, she said something interesting. My Mom has not relaxed her hair since October 9, 2009. This Saturday will be her one year Nappyversary.

I'm sure you're wondering how she inserted that into the conversation. Well she was telling me how when she gets off of work she wants to get her hair twisted. So I asked "you're getting extensions ?" she replied "no I'm just twisting my hair". I asked how much is it ? $50 !!!! My reaction was of course, WTH Mom I can do that for you. I can braid and twist, you shouldn't be paying $50 to twist your own hair with no extensions. She said she was not relaxing her hair anymore. Honestly for as long as I can remember, my Mom would go months at a time without a relaxer, she just hates it.

So when my Mom gets off work I will be doing her hair and I'm actually excited so I can share all of the new found knowledge I have learned since I went natural over a month ago. By the way, she doesn't know I cut off my hair and went natural. This shall be interesting... :-D

Advice Of The Week

Good Day Meanies,

Never make yourself too available. People like mystery and the thrill of the chase when dating. As part of keeping up the mystery, do not sleep with your dates early on. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. (And yes, this goes for both men AND women!) If the chemistry peaks too early, your emotions may never have time to catch up and the relationship will eventually wither away.

LET THE CHURCH SAY AMEN !!!! I COULDN'T AGREE MORE

Are You Interested Are What ?

Hey Meanies,

So I have been thinking lately how unbelievable annoying it is for tons of folks
to be interested in a particular person but that person is not
interested....lmao hope that makes sense. What I'm saying is, doesn't it drive
you crazy that someone is always interested in you and you're never interested ?

I swear every guy that has some kind of interest in me, I don't feel that way
about them. It's like beating a damn dead horse. All I can say is WTH. I'm the
kind of person that you can't wear down to go out with you etc. Some guys think
"oh I can change your mind" etc. No the hell you can't..lol. If I don't like you
in that way it's not going to happen. Everyone has a type it can be sad but it's true WE ALL have a type, and I NEVER stray away too far from what I like. That's just me !!!!

How unfair is it for guys to be interested all the time and I can NEVER find someone with the same mutual feeling. Weird ! I must say that most of the guys I like, I think they're at the top of the pedestal while I'm in the middle. I don't like to compare but it's real and sad.

People think about what level each person is on individually first before looking at how the relationship will work. I get that to a certain point but what about love? Why should how much I make? What kind of job I have? what kind of car I drive? do I eat pork ? lmao overshadow the love we can make. Just something to think about.

When Are You Going To Have Children ?

Hola Meanies !

So I'm sure some of you hear this question often "When are you going to have
kids ?" I'm at my breaking point of answering this damn question. I have been hearing this question since I was 20 yrs old. I think folks only care about reproducing instead of trying to change the world. I'm not going to give you something to talk about. People will be overjoyed to say OMG she is young and living under her parents roof with a child etc. I wouldn't give them the satisfaction. Yes I have been on my own since I was 20 but that doesn't mean I should be reproducing all because you want something to talk about.

Honestly how is it that when folks see you this is the first question. What happen to "how are YOU doing?", " how are your friends doing?", " what's new?", what are your
plans for the future pertaining to a job/career/business?", NOT "when are you going to have children?". I'm tired of it !!!!

If you know me very well, you know that school & career is always on my mind. It takes up 85% of my brain. I don't have the AMERICAN dream which is house,
marriage & children. If you've notice school/career/businesses is no where in
that plan for a lot of people.

When someone asks me this one damn question, I
answer "just because everyone else is taking the risk of getting pregnant or
getting an STD doesn't mean I have to", "I have 7 nieces & nephews why do I
have to have children, "having children is not the only thing to do in
life", "how do you know if I want to have children",
and are going to help me raise any of the children". Why is it such a big deal
to a lot of people.

You have family members that force/constantly talk about it
because they want children not you. I'm soooo sorry but my life is a script and
I'm the writer. So stop friggin asking.

My Hair Journey

Hola Meanies,

I just wanted to share photos of my hair journey now that I'm natural. ENJOY !!!!!

Round Of Applause

Sed I was the best thing that happened to u
U called me beautiful
I shoulda laffed @ u
Had my stomach hurtin- in tears for the best comedy of the year
Take ur bow in front of the crowd
Damn that was foul
Cuz u lied
Had me for a sec- sounded so real
Can't deny (sigh)
Well the jokes on u I guess
Who's gonna be there wen u need a hug
Don't look @ me cuz all u gon get is the "kanyeshrug" (lol)
Round of Applause Take ya bow
You did so well
But all you get is a High One


By Stookz

You Had Me

I should've seen it comin
When u put ya games on repeat
Bein the least discrete, you had me fooled
Havin no kinda
Respect for me
Straight neglected me
Like I did YOU wrong
Got me writin songs
To compensate for the the pain I've gained, got me goin insane
Got me losin my mind,
Searchin so hard to find
Why I gotta play the broken hearted gurl- (giggle)
I see that love thang ain't for me
Thought it was everywhere I wanted to be, you had me fooled
You're everythin I thought you never were
Wish I could forget
I don't wanna be with you
Cause I don't want a Broken Heart.......

By Stookz

"LookWutchuDid"

U tol me u loved me
Ur arms u wrapped around me
Jus like that I'm rejected feelin silly
Won't eat
Won't sleep
So I rely on that tranquility pill
Cuz I can't deal
Wit bein slower to heal
We were lovers n frens
So its hard to accept or even pretend
That this is the end
I'm so torn between the two
Cuz idk if
I'd ever get bak wit u
Would it be wrong?
Cuz I wanna do rite
Love is a war n all I ever did was fight
So man down
Cuz I want my keys, my heart, n soul
bak right now
I feel so insulted torn n hurt
Cuz u went n treated ur queen like a bird
I'm ready for a new start
No more sleepin wit a broken heart.......

By Stookz

Bentonite Review

Hola Meanies,

Last week Friday was wash hair day. I actually colored, shampooed, conditioned, and deep treatment. First I colored my hair with Creme Of Nature in the orange box. The color was Golden Brown. Now the color on the box is a dark/light brownish auburn color. Of course I was scared to put that color in my hair because I have a old color from last summer still trying to hold on. So I followed the basic directions on the box obviously and continue with my usual hair routine. The only different thing I did was, I did a bentonite clay treatment.

Bentonite clay can be used as a hair clarifier, face mask and internal cleanse. Isn't that great, 3 uses for the price of one. It looks like fine sand/powder. It should be a light gray to gray color. If its white then that's suspect. Anyway you only have to add water to it, you can add olive oil/apple cider vinegar for your hair treatment and mix until there are no more lumps or clumps. I must say it was a task but worth it. My hair felt squeaky clean and was easy to detangle. Oh I also got my bentonite clay from blackonyxworld.com for $6 I think. I will definitely will be using it again. Maybe I'll use it twice a month.

After going through the whole coloring and washing my hair, the color on showed up around my edges and roots. Was I surprised ? No, because I knew that it would only show up on my new growth hair. So by the end of the year I will try again, by then I would already have done my BC ( by the grace of God my BC might be sooner).

I really really really want to wait for 5 or 6 months before BCing but I'm losing my patience and dying to be free of my stringy hair. Patience is not my best friend at the moment.

If you would like more information on Bentonite Clay, do your research ! You can also watch Youtube videos (very helpful)

Special Guests

Hey Meanies,

Last Saturday, my favorite cousin and best friend from BK came to visit me. I was super excited because I haven't seen them in a long time and I usually don't have guests at my apartment. People seem to think I live far out in west bubbafuck. I'm only an hour and half away from NYC. It took them 3 hours to get here because of traffic. And they got semi-lost, they made it very clear to me by saying "the things we do for you" in a nice way of saying we're hungry and annoyed.

Anyway when we get together it's a problem. I decided we're going to eat, chat, drink and act a damn fool. So we had a mini wine tasting session. We were excited because we have always wanted to do wine tasting. These are the wines we had: Sweet Bitch Merlot, Sutter Home Cabernet Sauvignon, Gallo Family White Zinfandel, and Sutter Home Moscato. Honestly, my friends preferred the Moscato and White Zinfandel. They said the Merlot wasn't bad but it left a after taste behind like cardboard. Yes they said cardboard.

So this is what I learned last night, I had lemon cake with a berry/pineapple sauce with a glass of the Merlot. I took a sip before eating the cake, but when I ate the cake and took another sip it was not the same sweet & fruity Merlot. The taste of the wine did a 360 and tasted like the Cabernet Sauvignon. I thought I was going crazy. I'm starting to wonder if my friends wasn't sucking down the new make your own Coolattas if the wine would have tasted different to them. I guess we have next time to figure it out. Anyway, I had a blast and was very grateful that they came and visited me. The little things mean more to me than you can imagine.

I HATE CILANTRO !

Hey Meanies,

Last week Saturday I went to a Heineken Inspire Concert in the city with my bestsie. So before heading back to CT we decided to eat "Chipotle". If you haven't tried it you don't know what your missing. While eating I told my friend my taste buds can't really pick up the taste of cilantro. She says it's earthy, limey, dish washing soap etc (Ina Garten says it taste like soap too).



I have eaten cilantro numerous times and still can't get what the flavor is. Every time we eat Chipotle cilantro ends up in the conversation because they use it in the salsa and guacamole. I think I need to get a bush of fresh cilantro and try it because every time I ate something with cilantro another flavor overpowered my taste buds. With that being said I would like to dedicate this Glozell video to my bestsie. Enjoy the video, she ALWAYS makes me cry !

I Likey, Made Me Laugh

These signs should be EVERYWHERE !

Pure Rachetness

Bonjour Meanies,

I have read a few stories that stood out to me today. Thought I'd share them with you. Here they are : father impregnates 11 year old, I have been sleeping with my husbands brother, 18 year old disabled girl with the mentality of a 5 year gets gang raped, and man robs Wendy's.

Man/father impregnates 11 year old, there is confusion going on as to whether the girl is his daughter or daughters friend that slept over. Now this douche pie claims he thought he was banging his wife. How in the hell you can't tell the difference between a lil girls vagina and your wife's fire hydrant ? To me it doesn't make sense. An 11 yr old is 100 lbs maybe and I'm sure your wife is taller and bigger. Doesn't your wife have a specific smell etc ? This pervert is a liar. What makes me more upset is the girl just laid there & said/did nothing. Where dey do dat at ? Ok on to the next story.

How can folks sleep with their husbands brother, husbands father, husband bestfriend, wife's sister, wife's mother etc I'm sure you get the point. Now I just think people don't have any morals. There is an abundance of other folks why them. It just destroys relationships. Please believe if you bang my mother, sister, bestfriend or even a male friend of mine you are non-existent to me. There's no way I can let it go, I'm going to be paranoid and slide into my grave earlier than I planned.

There was a 18 year old mentally challenged young lady that was kidnapped and gang raped in a basement. I wanted to bust out into tears when I heard this story because she's mentally challenged and has the mentality of a 5 year old. Now the young lady told her mother what happened and stated " you should of seen it mommy, there was a long long big line mommy". That makes my heart hurt. As you can imagine a long ass line outside of the basement with potential serial killers, rapist, pedophiles, murders etc waiting to rape this lady. The mother of one of rapists (owner of the basement) claim her son didn't have sex with no girl and that she saw them but didn't know what they was doing in the basement. A few other guys said she wasn't screaming or yelling so she was willingly participating. She is mentally challenged she will not react the same way a normal person would. And only God knows if she was screaming and everyone played like they didn't hear a thing. Not feeling it !

As for Mr. Idiot aka Wendy Robber he is beyond stupid. He decides to rob Wendy's through the drive thru window with a ski mask and gun. And what does he do a couple minutes later ? He calls the Wendy's and tell them the next time he comes back make sure there's more than $586 in the register. WTH did he really call to complain about $586 ? I would think his ass needs to be grateful because he is $586 richer. What a douche pie filled with moron/stupid pudding mix.

Product Review on Alikay Naturals

Hola Meanies,

Hope everyone is doing great. Last week Friday was wash hair day. I have to be honest I hate doing my hair. Ever since I decided to go au naturale I have been trying to take care of my hair like I should of been doing. Anyway I brought new products to use for my transitioning/natural journey. Now that I'm learning how take care of my natural hair why not use natural/ organic products. Don't get it twisted I still use regular products but I make sure there are no parabens, sulfates, and petroleum.

So I came across a great site called BlackOnyxworld.com. The owner of the site is Rochelle. She is a Youtube natural hair Guru. I'm glad I found her she gives me hope, lol. Her spirit is great, whatever information she encounters no matter what it is she shares it with the world. Now that her website is officially open it's time to get down to business. So on her site she sells natural hair/ skin products and handmade earrings. Everything is priced fair, so you will definitely get your moneys worth. As I said before Fridays/Saturdays is hair washing day.



From blackonyxworld.com I have purchased : honey & sage deep conditioner, essential hair growth oil, Shea yogurt hair moisturizer, lemongrass leave-in conditioner, moisturizing hair perfume, raw Shea butter, benzonite clay, black soap and a handmade pair of rasta earrings.



When I washed my hair, I used a organic shampoo/conditioner, the honey & sage deep conditioner, leave-in conditioner, coconut/vitamin E oil, growth oil and the Shea yogurt moisturizer. Now all the products I just mentioned I used them the same way I listed them. When taking care of your hair eventually you create a routine. Anyways the blackonyxworld products are amazing. Everything smells great, nothing is heavy and a lil goes a long way.



Braid-out using Shea Yogurt Hair Moisturizer

I must say my favorite product so far is the Shea yogurt hair moisturizer. You only need a lil and your hair actually absorbs it instead of it coating your hair strands like petroleum/mineral oil based products. Now that I have almost all the products I need, hopefully I will not become a hair PJ ( product junkie). I'm definitely a lotion/splash/perfume/nail polish/make-up junkie, I don't think hair products need to be added to the list.

By the grace of God I've found products that work for me during my transitioning phase. Not sure if it would remain the same when I Big Chop but in due time we'll see. For now and the next few months I'm sticking to blackonyxworld.com, Aussie, and VO5 products. The worst feeling ever is to buy something and it doesn't work to your liking. That's life BUT you can somewhat avoid this when it comes to hair products by purchasing a few items at a time. If it doesn't work give it to a friend/family member or create your own mixture. You can add anything to your shampoo/conditioner/ deep conditioner. Become a mixing diva. With that being said I will definitely be back later this week with a review on bentonite clay.

What are you doing this weekend ?
I will be coloring my hair and giving it some good ass TLC.

Sexual Position Of The Week

Hey Meanies,

This right here is called Thigh Master. It looks very interesting. I think it's obvious that your lover/boyfriend/husband can get a full view of your ass...lol. Enjoy !

2 Months

Good Day Meanies,

It has been 2 months since transitioning to natural hair. My hair is so kinky it's crazy but I'm loving it. Just last week I lost whatever marbles I had left and wanted to go chop it off. Then I thought no maybe I should wait longer. It makes sense to wait simply because during this process I could be learning about my natural texture growing in. It is beyond frustration trying to deal with both textures. Since I started transitioning I washed my hair once a week. Every time I washed my hair, I washed, conditioned, deep treatment and moisturized. I would braid my hair wet just so it can dry because I hate using a blow dryer. When I wake up in the morning I do cornrows.

During this whole process it has been trial and error with the products I have been using. This is what I have: 2 shampoos ( added vitamin E & coconut oil), 2 conditioners ( added vitamin E oil & coconut oil), 2 deep treatments, 2 leave-in conditioners, 2 moisturizing oils, 1 shine glosser, and 1 styling gel. All of these products are paraben, silicone, and sulfate free. I'm sure you're wondering why I have 2 of everything. Well I thought it would make sense to get 2 different types of each product so I can test how they react to my hair. Also it's good to do because some folks hair get used to a product and stops working. So far all of the products have been great.

Every since I started transitioning my hair feels extremely soft. I'm washing my hair differently and trying not to manipulate it a lot. It's been 2 months transitioning and I have no idea how much longer I can go. I would love to transition for at least 6 months. That's the plan but we'll see.

What A Day

Hola Meanies !

I know I have been M.I.A for a long time. Ummm I actually have been mentally drained. You know when your mind is constantly running and you can't stop yourself. Well that's always me but for the past week or so I crashed.

Anyway Monday July 26, I went into NYC with my BFF for a job conference at MSG. She has been looking forward to this event for the past 3 weeks or so because all she wants is a job. So the conference has two segments, she went to the 11-1:30pm segment. We got there after 11. When we reached, there was a long ass line around the corner. I left her with a friend that was on the line. Told them Good Luck and when she's done to wait outside of Borders. I'm sure you're guessing why I'm telling her to meet me in front of Borders. She left her cellphone at home. It made sense to pick a landmark because I don't think I can handle looking for someone at MSG.

I'm in NYC where do I go first ? I didn't have the slightest clue. Then I thought just walk til you see something interesting. On the walk I see Conway. By the way Conway is not the same. Don't you just hate a store that you grew up going to changes. But change is good but when change is bad it's no bueno. So I went to Conway & Joey's.

After I walked a block or so I stumbled upon a Irish Pub & Bar called Pigs N' Whistles. Honestly I was hot, thirsty and was in need of some heavy AC loving. It was nice & quiet. I've never sat at a bar by myself so it felt good. I had 3 drinks: Tropical Mix Magarita, and two Dark Storms (Ginger Beer with Black Spice Rum). I'm not a beer Nazi but that Dark Storm was really good. After sitting at the bar for about an hour and a half reading my book " His Woman His Wife His Widow" and drinking, it was time to go meet back up with my friend. When leaving the bar I noticed I've never had a moment like that in my whole entire life. A quiet,serene and alone time. It was weird but felt great. I recommend everyone do it once in awhile, once you do it you'll probably might do it more often.

I get to Borders 5 mins before 1:30pm. So I'm a book worm. Me in Borders is not good, usually I would leave with at least 4 books. But I'm walking around trying to kill time for my friend to make her way out of MSG. I left Borders 20 mins later, sat outside on the bench next to some stink fertilizer that smelled like weeks old Chinese food.

After awhile I was getting nervous about my friend. At that moment I had to use the bathroom so bad I could of wet myself. When I went into Borders earlier, the bathroom was out of service at that moment. I'm outside walking back and forth waiting. I said oh no I have to find somewhere. I went to Kmart, didn't find a bathroom. Went to Penn Station, lost patience and left. Low and behold I ended up back at Borders. Thank God the bathroom was working. As soon as I was finished my friend called me and said she's outside. The conference was suppose to be over 1:30pm. I was thinking it will go over til 2pm. She came out few mins before 4pm.

I get outside and she's beyond mad. The conference was worthless and waste of money. She's mad I'm mad, she's hungry I'm hungry. We went to Red Lobster and enjoyed ourselves indulging in food, drinks and great conversations. Then we headed back to CT.

Calling All Transitioners/Natural Divas !

Hey Meanies,

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Also, there is great information on everything you need to know to help maintain your lovely hair. There are forums where you can discuss products, do product switch with another person, and meet up with other naturals/transitioners. This by far is the best community based site I have ever signed up for. It's all love, support and inspiration.

We need this because there is too much hate going on. Hate Is for Suckers. CurlyNikki.com is based on support and helping one another. The main purpose is to learn how to take care of your hair while experiencing it with others. In the process of learning you get to experience it with someone else that just might be feeling the same way you do. My favorite thing about this site would be the love & support that you receive, it's very welcoming and deserved.

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13 Years Old & Pregnant

Bonne Journée Meanies,


I was watching Maury at 2:30 am and came across this young lady that I couldn't get out of my mind. Obviously she was on the show to take a paternity test. She got pregnant at the age of 13 because she was dared to have sex. WTH I literally had my mouth open for a few minutes thinking to myself " are you kidding me?". I don't care how old you are but to be dared to have sex and get pregnant is crazy. This by far is the craziest and saddest stories I have ever heard. This is a prime example of people having sex and not thinking about the consequences. The young lady stated it was the worst mistake she has ever made in her whole life.

I'm not going to lie if that was me I would be embarrassed for the rest of my life. What do you tell your child when they ask how you got pregnant ? To make matters worse is the guy is 18 years old with 3 children already, well now it's 4. What's wrong with our young generation, the stories get worse every year.

Sexual Position Of The Week

Hola Meanies,

OMG Oh my what a sensual position. This right here is The Octopus. I don't see why it's named The Octopus BUT it looks quite interesting. I'm thinking this is a good workout for the arms, butt and thighs. While you're in the mood you and your lover can gaze into each others eyes and feel the passion. Please don't hurt yourself trying to be all limber and sexy then you hurt yourself. You are not Superwoman and if so kryptonite is always near...lol. BE SAFE !

Pop Tart

Hey Meanies,


A couple of nights ago my friend and I was watching TV together. A Pop Tart commercial came on. We have seen this commercial a million times before. I always say you can watch something so many times and everytime you see the same thing you notice something new. Both of us at the same time said "why the black children in the commercial were dark dark chocolate and their hair is dark dark dark chocolate?".

Honestly I was annoyed that I didn't notice. Also, I couldn't get over how the black children had burnt chocolate skin with burnt hair that looked like Tootsie rolls. Why the black children hair had to look like balls of turd ? Why the children were so dark? African Americans come in different shades with different hair textures.

Now every time I see the commercial I would like to meet the ignorant fool that thought it was okay to make black children look that way. They damn product is diabetes comatose anyway.

Going Au Naturale

Hey Meanies,


I have been thinking about going au naturale for 2 weeks now. I have come to the decision that I will be getting the Big Cut. My last full perm was May 24, 2010, and my hairline touch up was June 13, 2010. If you could feel my roots right now, you can scour last nights pots and pans. Strangely I have always wanted to cut my hair extremely short like the BC but changed my mind because I saw another hairstyle which would be long. I have chopped off my hair at least once a year because shorter hair for me is easier to maintain. I feel more relaxed and less worried. Also I don't have to freak out and try to figure out what to do with the birds nest on my head. I do wear wigs but sometimes I don't want to because it's too much damn hair..lol. For the last 12 years I have been perming, weaving, braiding, dying, bleaching, and highlighting my hair. Anytime I wanted a hairstyle please believe I was going to get it. I even tried my best to go to professionals every two weeks but my hair just wasn't a willing participant.

At the moment, my hair is at it's worse condition I have ever seen. I can't even save my hair right now no matter how hard I try. My hair is falling out everywhere I'm surprised I don't have a bald spot. Last year I had to cut off my hair into a Rihanna style because one side of my hair in the back was falling out faster than I can keep up. I loved the style, it was easy for me to maintain. Summer was approaching so it was definitely great to have that look. But it was so damn hot that as soon as I permed my hair and went outside into the heat it was over. I would sweat for 5 mins and my roots would be curly. That is actually a common problem I had growing up when I permed my hair. When it came time to perm my hair I would be happy because my hair was going to be bone straight. Truthfully in the next two weeks my hair would be kinky like no other. That cream crack couldn't even help my hair no matter what. I have coarse and thick hair. You could use super perm and my hair wouldn't be phased by it. The only thing that would happen would obviously be breakage.

I haven't quite figured out what day I will get my big chop but I'm sure I will love it. Some ppl that want to go au naturale are scared of what others might say. Ever since I been getting my hair done I honestly never cared if anyone didn't like it because I was the one that had to deal with it. I say go for it ! It might be the best or worse decision you ever make. But remember hair grows back. Your hair does not make you who you are.

During this process I'm going to try to track my progress showing before and after pictures, maybe even record new things I have learned along the way etc. I think this would be great because I HATE MY HAIR lol I really do. It's time to put love and care back into my hair.

I Am Not My Hair

Huge Pet Peeve

Bonsoir Meanies,

I HATE when someone calls a number and has the audacity to ask whose this ? As far as I can see you called my number. When you call someone the first thing you should say is hello may I talk to whoever you're looking to talk to.

When I pick up my phone that's what I'm expecting to here. What kind of phone manners is that ? You don't live in my house or pay my bills to be asking me whose this on the phone. For the last year, I have been getting phone calls from spanish folks asking for Joses,Hosea,Pedros and what not. No matter how many times I say I don't know the person you're looking for and they don't live here they still call.

I don't want to lose my mind and just go off one day. It would be so disgusting that I just might be disgusted with myself because I allowed these people mess up my Feng-Shui. How many times must I repeat myself ? What makes it worse is when the female that calls has a attitude asking for the person. I hope and pray that if they call again that they catch me off guard on a good day. If not I feel sorry.

To all of you out there that like to call someones number and ask whose this, think again. You called the number have manners whether you know the number you're calling or not you ingrates.

Granny VS Sexy

YahSu Meanies,


I was watching the other night "I Think I Love My Wife". I could watch that movie all day and never get tired of it. Something caught my attention. Chris Rocks character in the movie wanted his wife to wear sexy panties. Who doesn't want to wear sexy panties? She likes the bingo bags, granny panties and garbage bags.

Now ladies I understand that you want to be comfortable BUT you don't want to be sexy for your man/husband ? Comfort is key BUT what's more important you being comfortable or your husband going to find someone who wears sexy panties ? LOL. It should be a compromise, every once in awhile you should want to surprise your man. You don't have to do it everyday BUT you must think you're in the relationship by yourself and you're not. If so you need to be single.

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You Talk Too Much

Beunos Noches Meanies,


Know anyone that talks too much ? I know some folks that don't know how to distinguish personal life and work. There's no reason why everyone at work knows why you didn't come to work, what's going on with your children, or your relationship with a significant other. Yes everyone at some point in there life finds a friend at work that they become close with. BUT there are those ppl that have a close friend but still chooses to tell the whole work place their business.

What's strange is these same people would be the ones to question why others know there business. Exsqueeze me ? Did you not open your mouth to someone and that person told another person ? Well that's what happened. Then they get angry that everyone at work know personal business but they brought it upon themselves.

Oh and don't be surprised if you're a victim to someone like this. You think that you can trust them with personal information and before you know it they bring up a very emotional situation in front of a group of workers. Like you did not confide in them. I'm sure anyone would be mad as hell, I would be beyond mad, more like psycho.

You want to act like a civilized adult and say something to the person instead of slapping the taste out of whoever it is mouth. Violence solves nothing. Best thing to do is talk to them and let them know what they did was inappropriate. Be prepared for the person to deny to the 10th power that they said anything wrong.

We know you can't change their mind. So I say the person can go fall on something sharp. I will never confide in that person again and the only words they will hear out my mouth to them is "Good Morning" and Good Night". They might be very lucky that I even say those 2 greetings at all. I'm not getting over it, we are not hanging out all buddy buddy. That person to me evaporated off the face of the earth. You don't exist to me. Life goes on without them.

Remember some people mouths are W.M.D to people reputations ( Weapons of Mass Destruction)

Sexual Position Of The Week

Good Day Meanies,

Arc De Triomph

This is only for the limber. No one with bad knees or back should try this. You don't want to be in more pain than pleasure. If you want to give it a try I say do some serious stretching. If you do yoga or pilates that's even better.

Why ?

Hola Meanies,

I found this picture on Photo Bucket today. I have a lot of humor but this picture is not funny. I remember eating these straws filled with powdered sugar. Now people are advocating children to sniff this candy if they can't afford heroin. This is not funny at all. I'm sure there are folks who find this extremely funny but I don't. This should be removed ASAP from their website.

Inspiration

Buenas Tardes Meanies,


This is for all the woman in the world that know they don't need a man to validate them. There are more important things in your life. Only we as women can validate ourselves. Don't you hate women that act desperate if they don't have a boyfriend in their life ? They feel like a man is who makes them.

Personally if you can't stand on your own why the hell should a man want/date you ? I would call these women desperate, annoying and stage 5 clingers. Once they find a man they already plotting on how to keep him because they don't like to be alone.

Please ladies work on yourself before getting into a relationship. Know who you are before wanting a man who knows who he is already. He can not tell you who you are. No way mija !

Today !

Hey Meanies,

Today is National HIV Testing day. Please get tested, I don't care if you think your significant other may not be cheating it's better safe than sorry. Get tested RIGHT NOW ! WRAP IT UP ! WRAP IT UP ! WRAP IT UP !

Sexual Position of the Week

Hey Meanies,


Passion Propeller

I know this looks like the infamous 69 but it's not. It's the same position but your lover or whoever you chose will enter you on traditional missionary style and then YOWZA ! He does a 360 degrees spin....WTH This sounds dangerous. This is only for the daring. I repeat ONLY FOR THE DARING. Enjoy let me know how it goes :-)

Man Arrested For Throwing Boy in Dryer

Hey Meanies,


A West Virginia man 22-year-old Joseph Edward Jones was taken into police custody after authorities say he abused his girlfriend’s son, duct taping him and throwing him into a clothes dryer. Also forcing him to eat cat feces sandwich.

The 6 year old boy says he has been abused for the last 3 years by his mothers live-in boyfriend. The boyfriend would pour ice water on him, and bite him on his nose and face. The worse part is that the mother knew that her boyfriend made her son eat cat feces sandwiches and she did nothing about it. WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE MOTHERS? She must be stupid she has to be.

I wouldn't be surprised if she watched her boyfriend duct tape her 3 year old and put him into the clothes dryer. How can you look into your son eyes and not protect him ? I'm convinced that when some woman become mothers, getting some cock is more important than their child.

It's like if the boyfriend/girlfriend abused the children maybe the child might die and the parent would be better off with their significant other. I'll tell you who would be better off, all those children that have loser parents. All the parents just need to lay out on the curb and allow everyone to run them over.

The boy was asked why didn't he tell anyone sooner he stated that Jones threatened to kill his mother if he said anything. Jones was charged with child abuse causing injury BUT the bastard was released from jail after posting $30,000.00 bond. I'm sure Jones parents came in and saved him. They should be ashamed of themselves. I would of made him rot in jail. Once again folks are killing their own babies, if it's not them it's their boyfriends/girlfriends. They just sit back and watch everything go down with no concern or remorse. The mother should never see her child again, she sat back for 3 years and did nothing.