Sexual Position Of The Week

Hey Meanies,

This right here is called Thigh Master. It looks very interesting. I think it's obvious that your lover/boyfriend/husband can get a full view of your ass...lol. Enjoy !

2 Months

Good Day Meanies,

It has been 2 months since transitioning to natural hair. My hair is so kinky it's crazy but I'm loving it. Just last week I lost whatever marbles I had left and wanted to go chop it off. Then I thought no maybe I should wait longer. It makes sense to wait simply because during this process I could be learning about my natural texture growing in. It is beyond frustration trying to deal with both textures. Since I started transitioning I washed my hair once a week. Every time I washed my hair, I washed, conditioned, deep treatment and moisturized. I would braid my hair wet just so it can dry because I hate using a blow dryer. When I wake up in the morning I do cornrows.

During this whole process it has been trial and error with the products I have been using. This is what I have: 2 shampoos ( added vitamin E & coconut oil), 2 conditioners ( added vitamin E oil & coconut oil), 2 deep treatments, 2 leave-in conditioners, 2 moisturizing oils, 1 shine glosser, and 1 styling gel. All of these products are paraben, silicone, and sulfate free. I'm sure you're wondering why I have 2 of everything. Well I thought it would make sense to get 2 different types of each product so I can test how they react to my hair. Also it's good to do because some folks hair get used to a product and stops working. So far all of the products have been great.

Every since I started transitioning my hair feels extremely soft. I'm washing my hair differently and trying not to manipulate it a lot. It's been 2 months transitioning and I have no idea how much longer I can go. I would love to transition for at least 6 months. That's the plan but we'll see.

What A Day

Hola Meanies !

I know I have been M.I.A for a long time. Ummm I actually have been mentally drained. You know when your mind is constantly running and you can't stop yourself. Well that's always me but for the past week or so I crashed.

Anyway Monday July 26, I went into NYC with my BFF for a job conference at MSG. She has been looking forward to this event for the past 3 weeks or so because all she wants is a job. So the conference has two segments, she went to the 11-1:30pm segment. We got there after 11. When we reached, there was a long ass line around the corner. I left her with a friend that was on the line. Told them Good Luck and when she's done to wait outside of Borders. I'm sure you're guessing why I'm telling her to meet me in front of Borders. She left her cellphone at home. It made sense to pick a landmark because I don't think I can handle looking for someone at MSG.

I'm in NYC where do I go first ? I didn't have the slightest clue. Then I thought just walk til you see something interesting. On the walk I see Conway. By the way Conway is not the same. Don't you just hate a store that you grew up going to changes. But change is good but when change is bad it's no bueno. So I went to Conway & Joey's.

After I walked a block or so I stumbled upon a Irish Pub & Bar called Pigs N' Whistles. Honestly I was hot, thirsty and was in need of some heavy AC loving. It was nice & quiet. I've never sat at a bar by myself so it felt good. I had 3 drinks: Tropical Mix Magarita, and two Dark Storms (Ginger Beer with Black Spice Rum). I'm not a beer Nazi but that Dark Storm was really good. After sitting at the bar for about an hour and a half reading my book " His Woman His Wife His Widow" and drinking, it was time to go meet back up with my friend. When leaving the bar I noticed I've never had a moment like that in my whole entire life. A quiet,serene and alone time. It was weird but felt great. I recommend everyone do it once in awhile, once you do it you'll probably might do it more often.

I get to Borders 5 mins before 1:30pm. So I'm a book worm. Me in Borders is not good, usually I would leave with at least 4 books. But I'm walking around trying to kill time for my friend to make her way out of MSG. I left Borders 20 mins later, sat outside on the bench next to some stink fertilizer that smelled like weeks old Chinese food.

After awhile I was getting nervous about my friend. At that moment I had to use the bathroom so bad I could of wet myself. When I went into Borders earlier, the bathroom was out of service at that moment. I'm outside walking back and forth waiting. I said oh no I have to find somewhere. I went to Kmart, didn't find a bathroom. Went to Penn Station, lost patience and left. Low and behold I ended up back at Borders. Thank God the bathroom was working. As soon as I was finished my friend called me and said she's outside. The conference was suppose to be over 1:30pm. I was thinking it will go over til 2pm. She came out few mins before 4pm.

I get outside and she's beyond mad. The conference was worthless and waste of money. She's mad I'm mad, she's hungry I'm hungry. We went to Red Lobster and enjoyed ourselves indulging in food, drinks and great conversations. Then we headed back to CT.

Calling All Transitioners/Natural Divas !

Hey Meanies,

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Also, there is great information on everything you need to know to help maintain your lovely hair. There are forums where you can discuss products, do product switch with another person, and meet up with other naturals/transitioners. This by far is the best community based site I have ever signed up for. It's all love, support and inspiration.

We need this because there is too much hate going on. Hate Is for Suckers. CurlyNikki.com is based on support and helping one another. The main purpose is to learn how to take care of your hair while experiencing it with others. In the process of learning you get to experience it with someone else that just might be feeling the same way you do. My favorite thing about this site would be the love & support that you receive, it's very welcoming and deserved.

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13 Years Old & Pregnant

Bonne Journée Meanies,


I was watching Maury at 2:30 am and came across this young lady that I couldn't get out of my mind. Obviously she was on the show to take a paternity test. She got pregnant at the age of 13 because she was dared to have sex. WTH I literally had my mouth open for a few minutes thinking to myself " are you kidding me?". I don't care how old you are but to be dared to have sex and get pregnant is crazy. This by far is the craziest and saddest stories I have ever heard. This is a prime example of people having sex and not thinking about the consequences. The young lady stated it was the worst mistake she has ever made in her whole life.

I'm not going to lie if that was me I would be embarrassed for the rest of my life. What do you tell your child when they ask how you got pregnant ? To make matters worse is the guy is 18 years old with 3 children already, well now it's 4. What's wrong with our young generation, the stories get worse every year.

Sexual Position Of The Week

Hola Meanies,

OMG Oh my what a sensual position. This right here is The Octopus. I don't see why it's named The Octopus BUT it looks quite interesting. I'm thinking this is a good workout for the arms, butt and thighs. While you're in the mood you and your lover can gaze into each others eyes and feel the passion. Please don't hurt yourself trying to be all limber and sexy then you hurt yourself. You are not Superwoman and if so kryptonite is always near...lol. BE SAFE !

Pop Tart

Hey Meanies,


A couple of nights ago my friend and I was watching TV together. A Pop Tart commercial came on. We have seen this commercial a million times before. I always say you can watch something so many times and everytime you see the same thing you notice something new. Both of us at the same time said "why the black children in the commercial were dark dark chocolate and their hair is dark dark dark chocolate?".

Honestly I was annoyed that I didn't notice. Also, I couldn't get over how the black children had burnt chocolate skin with burnt hair that looked like Tootsie rolls. Why the black children hair had to look like balls of turd ? Why the children were so dark? African Americans come in different shades with different hair textures.

Now every time I see the commercial I would like to meet the ignorant fool that thought it was okay to make black children look that way. They damn product is diabetes comatose anyway.

Going Au Naturale

Hey Meanies,


I have been thinking about going au naturale for 2 weeks now. I have come to the decision that I will be getting the Big Cut. My last full perm was May 24, 2010, and my hairline touch up was June 13, 2010. If you could feel my roots right now, you can scour last nights pots and pans. Strangely I have always wanted to cut my hair extremely short like the BC but changed my mind because I saw another hairstyle which would be long. I have chopped off my hair at least once a year because shorter hair for me is easier to maintain. I feel more relaxed and less worried. Also I don't have to freak out and try to figure out what to do with the birds nest on my head. I do wear wigs but sometimes I don't want to because it's too much damn hair..lol. For the last 12 years I have been perming, weaving, braiding, dying, bleaching, and highlighting my hair. Anytime I wanted a hairstyle please believe I was going to get it. I even tried my best to go to professionals every two weeks but my hair just wasn't a willing participant.

At the moment, my hair is at it's worse condition I have ever seen. I can't even save my hair right now no matter how hard I try. My hair is falling out everywhere I'm surprised I don't have a bald spot. Last year I had to cut off my hair into a Rihanna style because one side of my hair in the back was falling out faster than I can keep up. I loved the style, it was easy for me to maintain. Summer was approaching so it was definitely great to have that look. But it was so damn hot that as soon as I permed my hair and went outside into the heat it was over. I would sweat for 5 mins and my roots would be curly. That is actually a common problem I had growing up when I permed my hair. When it came time to perm my hair I would be happy because my hair was going to be bone straight. Truthfully in the next two weeks my hair would be kinky like no other. That cream crack couldn't even help my hair no matter what. I have coarse and thick hair. You could use super perm and my hair wouldn't be phased by it. The only thing that would happen would obviously be breakage.

I haven't quite figured out what day I will get my big chop but I'm sure I will love it. Some ppl that want to go au naturale are scared of what others might say. Ever since I been getting my hair done I honestly never cared if anyone didn't like it because I was the one that had to deal with it. I say go for it ! It might be the best or worse decision you ever make. But remember hair grows back. Your hair does not make you who you are.

During this process I'm going to try to track my progress showing before and after pictures, maybe even record new things I have learned along the way etc. I think this would be great because I HATE MY HAIR lol I really do. It's time to put love and care back into my hair.

I Am Not My Hair

Huge Pet Peeve

Bonsoir Meanies,

I HATE when someone calls a number and has the audacity to ask whose this ? As far as I can see you called my number. When you call someone the first thing you should say is hello may I talk to whoever you're looking to talk to.

When I pick up my phone that's what I'm expecting to here. What kind of phone manners is that ? You don't live in my house or pay my bills to be asking me whose this on the phone. For the last year, I have been getting phone calls from spanish folks asking for Joses,Hosea,Pedros and what not. No matter how many times I say I don't know the person you're looking for and they don't live here they still call.

I don't want to lose my mind and just go off one day. It would be so disgusting that I just might be disgusted with myself because I allowed these people mess up my Feng-Shui. How many times must I repeat myself ? What makes it worse is when the female that calls has a attitude asking for the person. I hope and pray that if they call again that they catch me off guard on a good day. If not I feel sorry.

To all of you out there that like to call someones number and ask whose this, think again. You called the number have manners whether you know the number you're calling or not you ingrates.

Granny VS Sexy

YahSu Meanies,


I was watching the other night "I Think I Love My Wife". I could watch that movie all day and never get tired of it. Something caught my attention. Chris Rocks character in the movie wanted his wife to wear sexy panties. Who doesn't want to wear sexy panties? She likes the bingo bags, granny panties and garbage bags.

Now ladies I understand that you want to be comfortable BUT you don't want to be sexy for your man/husband ? Comfort is key BUT what's more important you being comfortable or your husband going to find someone who wears sexy panties ? LOL. It should be a compromise, every once in awhile you should want to surprise your man. You don't have to do it everyday BUT you must think you're in the relationship by yourself and you're not. If so you need to be single.

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You Talk Too Much

Beunos Noches Meanies,


Know anyone that talks too much ? I know some folks that don't know how to distinguish personal life and work. There's no reason why everyone at work knows why you didn't come to work, what's going on with your children, or your relationship with a significant other. Yes everyone at some point in there life finds a friend at work that they become close with. BUT there are those ppl that have a close friend but still chooses to tell the whole work place their business.

What's strange is these same people would be the ones to question why others know there business. Exsqueeze me ? Did you not open your mouth to someone and that person told another person ? Well that's what happened. Then they get angry that everyone at work know personal business but they brought it upon themselves.

Oh and don't be surprised if you're a victim to someone like this. You think that you can trust them with personal information and before you know it they bring up a very emotional situation in front of a group of workers. Like you did not confide in them. I'm sure anyone would be mad as hell, I would be beyond mad, more like psycho.

You want to act like a civilized adult and say something to the person instead of slapping the taste out of whoever it is mouth. Violence solves nothing. Best thing to do is talk to them and let them know what they did was inappropriate. Be prepared for the person to deny to the 10th power that they said anything wrong.

We know you can't change their mind. So I say the person can go fall on something sharp. I will never confide in that person again and the only words they will hear out my mouth to them is "Good Morning" and Good Night". They might be very lucky that I even say those 2 greetings at all. I'm not getting over it, we are not hanging out all buddy buddy. That person to me evaporated off the face of the earth. You don't exist to me. Life goes on without them.

Remember some people mouths are W.M.D to people reputations ( Weapons of Mass Destruction)